Imagine

fear

Project quote:

“Many of our fears exist only in our mind. We may instantly imagine bad things happening without any evidence.”  (Tom Henricksen, Relationship Management for Technical Professionals, 2018)

My thoughts:

Fear can be a protection. But it can also hold us back from many rewarding experiences in life. Courage is born from fear. Some of my proudest moments, some of my most rewarding moments were made possible because I fought against a specific fear and took a risk. One person might consider certain actions or words as reckless, while another might see it as an opportunity. When asked what my greatest fear was, I’ve never share this with anyone, maybe as a self-preservation mechanism. But I’ve learned the value of admitting my fears to myself. Only then can I challenge them.

Maybe instead of imagining the bad things that could happen, imagine the good that can happen. Even if the attempt fails fantastically—imagine the relief from knowing you finally tried. Imagine the boost of confidence you’ll feel, knowing you have the strength to challenge yourself, and your fears.


Editing projects for weeks ending June 3, 2018:
Reword privacy policy, Fitness website video transcript, Nonfiction book

Client countries:  UK, Israel, US


 

Values

values

Project quote:

“When did you start smoking and how did you start? … Were your friends trying cigarettes? … Did you want to look glamourous or just older? Were you trying to lose weight?”  (P. Stanford, Quit Smoking in 72 Hours: Without Weight Gain or Withdrawal, 2018)

My thoughts:

The topic of smoking does not interest me in the slightest. I’ve never smoked. I’ve never been interested in trying it out. I don’t really care too much whether other people smoke as long as it doesn’t happen in a place I’m unable to leave when they light up, like a vehicle, or restroom, or restaurant…etc.  So why am I writing about it?

What does interest me is understanding what makes people do things that they know will likely harm them. I certainly can’t exclude myself from this group, either.

I feel it’s important to examine motivations and fears, to discover what drives us to do anything risky or physically damaging. If we can admit to ourselves what we really want, no matter how petty, or ridiculous or worthwhile, then it’s a step towards figuring out what our values are.

If our values become clear, then it’s easier to weigh our actions against these values. Look for alternatives.

I’m having a difficult time coming up with examples because I fear that readers will think I’m judging them or picking things that I disapprove of. Maybe you all could help a lady out? Drop a comment below and tell me about something you do or have done that could be considered risky or harmful and then tell me what made you do it. Not an excuse, or a long explanation. But your true motivation or fear that pushed you.

Ok, here’s my confession. Often, I edit all night, and neglect to get enough sleep because I love receiving praise for my work. Seriously, I live for it sometimes. Feeling appreciated motivates me to provide the best quality of work that I possibly can, sleep deprivation be damned. The problem with that should be obvious, as it disrupts my schedule, and can affect my health.

There are so many things that people can lie to themselves about. But why? Fear of change? Fear of responsibility? Fear of pain in one form or another? Fear of loss? The list is endless.

But what do you value MORE than avoiding whatever your personal fear is?
What do you really want?
Security? Admiration? Love? Relief? Truth? Control? Acceptance?

… for me to stop asking questions?


Editing projects for weeks ending March 11, 2018:
Book publishing website, Nonfiction book, Technology website, Academic research article, Nonfiction investment book, Fiction book
Client countries:  US, Lithuania, China, Thailand


 

 

Wednesday’s Wafers XI

Wednesday’s Wafers: weekly series where I share some of my own recent writing.


Glorious
by Karolyn H

glorious

As each day passes
and time rolls merrily along
I understand more and more
why the greatest fulfillment in life
comes not from having the best of everything
or enjoying support and praise from admirers
or even from unlimited knowledge and opportunities.

It comes from the struggle
against your own fears
against the negativity of the world
against the obstacles that you might not even understand
against your past and recent failures
against bad habits and safe choices.

Our human condition is often scary
and painful, and hopeless.
But it is also beautiful
and silly and joyful.

The struggle validates the victory.
Tenacious persistence conquers doubt.
Failures teach humility and patience.

Reaching the goal, finding the treasure, discovering love;
there is nothing that compares to the satisfaction of
knowing that you made the hard choices that led you to this moment.
Knowing that the difficult, or traumatic circumstances you endured
were gloriously worth it.

Designing your life and crafting your character —
what an ambitious endeavor!
Who do you want to be?
How do you want to be?
Who are YOU?

and when I say “you”,

I’m really asking myself…


 

Work of Art

workofart

Project quote:

“Envision it, embody it, plan it, take action, and go for it.” (Abigail C., February 2018; Integrative MindBody)

My thoughts:

Once we dare to imagine our ideal self, then the next step to becoming this person is identifying the actions required to get there. When I say, “ideal self”, I’m referring to the person we truly want to show to the world. Not someone else, not someone else’s life, not someone else’s idea of the perfect person or situation.

Instead: talents we want to explore, fears we wish to banish, places we want to visit or live in, relationships we want to embrace. For me, it helps to think about the end goal as a finished painting – this is what I want people to see when they think of me.

So, what about the stages in between? Working backwards to now, each one can be a painting in its own right. Each transition is an illustration and requires certain brush strokes to achieve it. Building the foundation is just as important and worth celebrating as the final masterpiece.

Let’s take this example even further: what tools do we need to create this painting? Once we decide which brush and which colors to use, then we can pursue each one with purpose, knowing that it’s part of the process.


Editing projects for weeks ending February 4, 2018
Cover letter and academic proposal, Multiple Academic Research Articles, Mindbody Coaching Website, E-Card website, Real Estate Article
Client countries: US, China, Canada