-ships

ships

Project quote:

“She thought she needed a relationship. What she actually needed was companionship — friendship not predicated on how she looks or on being pleasant or perfect.” (S. Chapman, Searching for Something More, 2018)

My thoughts:

Realizing this seems to be easy for certain women. But for the majority, I don’t think this is ever truly understood and accepted. Maybe I’m allowing my own experience to determine my judgement on that.

I’ve worked this out and know it to be true but applying this principle in my life is another story.

What is the difference between a relationship and companionship? Here’s my interpretation.

Relationship: A connection between two people. There are different kinds of relationships, of course. We have various kinds with the many people in our lives. The kind I’m talking about today is the romantic/intimate/physical kind. This kind of relationship may mean different things to different people, but most would agree that if the connection has graduated to the term “relationship”, as opposed to a fling, hookup, or flirtation, then there is some kind of commitment involved. But notice that these kinds of relationships often have different boundaries or expectations from one couple to the next. Personally, I picture romantic dates, making a home together and traveling together.

Companionship: Friendship. The state of being another person’s companion, or one that accompanies another. When I think of someone who is a companion, I picture someone who I am comfortable to be around. Someone who I could hang out with, be myself and do nothing. Or, hang out with and share deep, innermost thoughts. Or, someone to laugh and have fun with. I don’t picture a situation where I’m constantly worried about how I look or what I’m wearing. I picture acceptance and appreciation.

If a committed, intimate relationship can be combined with true companionship, then that to me defines the ultimate connection. 😊 

What do you think?


Editing projects for weeks ending April 29, 2018:
Nonfiction book, Business policies

Client countries:  US, UK


 

Splendor

splendor

Project quote:

“The Gran Teatre del Liceu was a splendid structure displaying rich textures and brilliant colors designed to attract and compliment the crisp linens and shimmering satins worn by its audience … Gilded walls were covered by delicate ornate carvings that framed the horseshoe curve of the room with a striking, shimmering texture.”   (G.A. Dazio, The Ornaments of Love, 2nd ed., 2018)

My  thoughts:

My two favorite scenes in this book took place at the opera and a ball. I’m not a huge opera fan, per se, although I do love Andrea Bocelli; attending one of his concerts is on my bucket list. I am a great fan of classical music, choral singing and many genres of dance. Along with Bocelli or a symphony, I’d also love to attend a Diavolo dance production.

The scene at the opera conjures up images of attending a concert at a majestic theater, wearing exquisite attire and listening to heavenly classical music performed by a live orchestra, accompanied by an angelic choir.

The scene at the ball transports me to a fanciful ballroom, where I find myself gliding effortlessly around to a waltz, in the arms of a debonair, masterful dancer. The décor is fabulous and twinkly, and the ladies’ gowns are voluminous and dreamy. The musicians are flawless, and the sonatas and concertos surround us. Time is suspended, and cares float away.

In school, I sang in choir, and played the violin. I played the piano for years, from the time I was four years old. I’m not terribly talented when it comes to dance. I have great rhythm, but I’m not the quickest on my feet and learning steps is a slower process for me. Music generally persuades me to sway and move around to the beat and the mood and sing or hum along.

Composers are truly gifted. For all the poetry and song lyrics that I’ve written, I have yet to manage to compose a single melody. And not for lack of trying in my younger years! How is it that I can appreciate music, music theory, art, math, and literature, but I can’t piece together a few original notes? I suppose we all have our talents and I am grateful for my share. And grateful for everyone else’s!


Editing projects for weeks ending March 25, 2018:
Fiction book, Fitness website video transcript, Book reviews, ICO Whitepaper 

Client countries:  US, Israel, China, Canada 


 

 

Wednesday’s Wafers XI

Wednesday’s Wafers: weekly series where I share some of my own recent writing.


Glorious
by Karolyn H

glorious

As each day passes
and time rolls merrily along
I understand more and more
why the greatest fulfillment in life
comes not from having the best of everything
or enjoying support and praise from admirers
or even from unlimited knowledge and opportunities.

It comes from the struggle
against your own fears
against the negativity of the world
against the obstacles that you might not even understand
against your past and recent failures
against bad habits and safe choices.

Our human condition is often scary
and painful, and hopeless.
But it is also beautiful
and silly and joyful.

The struggle validates the victory.
Tenacious persistence conquers doubt.
Failures teach humility and patience.

Reaching the goal, finding the treasure, discovering love;
there is nothing that compares to the satisfaction of
knowing that you made the hard choices that led you to this moment.
Knowing that the difficult, or traumatic circumstances you endured
were gloriously worth it.

Designing your life and crafting your character —
what an ambitious endeavor!
Who do you want to be?
How do you want to be?
Who are YOU?

and when I say “you”,

I’m really asking myself…


 

Strategic Recklessness

recklessness

Project quote:

“Obviously, being the good girl, the girl who did everything that was expected of her got her nowhere in life. It was only the people who were willing to take chances who ever got anywhere in life.” (B. Noles, title TBA, 2018)

My thoughts:

This type of thinking can veer off in two different directions, can’t it? On the one hand, I agree. Doing what is expected of you all the time means you live solely to please other people, even when it goes against your own desires or best interests. You have no real control over your own life. Not a recipe for happiness if you’re not getting something out of it as well. I also believe that taking chances is vital for success. How many stories of missed opportunities have we heard about or lived? The “what ifs”? If we always wait for the perfect time to make a change in our life, or meet someone, or travel, etc., that time may never arrive, and we’ll have yet another regret.

On the other hand!

I also believe in preparation, and calculated risk. I’m not a gambler, when it comes to money. I have learned to plan and research any major change or business decision. Online purchases as well, no matter how small. When it comes to personal relationships, through trial and error learning experiences, I have settled on a balance between trust and spontaneity, and cautious skepticism. The advice to listen to what people’s actions tell you is very accurate. Promises are easy. Following through with action requires effort and intention. Lies are easy. Most are eventually discovered.

Moral of the story?

Take risks, follow an opportunity, listen to your heart
—yet at the same time— 
listen to reason, don’t be a fool, educate yourself.

What do you think about this dilemma?


Editing projects for week ending February 25, 2017:
Fiction book, Inspirational Essay, Academic Research Article, Therapist Certification Statement
Client countries:  US, China


 

Weed Whacking

weed whacking


Just discovered an incomprehensible, impossibly long sentence in your manuscript?

Gasp!!

Kill the whole thing and call it a day?

Now just hold on a minute, wordsmith…give that red pen a rest.

First, ask what the GOAL of this monstrosity really is. Statement of fact? Call to action? Expression of feelings? List? Comparison? Physical description? …nonsense? (hopefully not)

Second, break it up into sections. Find a piece of it that you feel is solid, then ask yourself what you are trying to convey ABOUT that solid piece. Sometimes, simply cutting it in half is all you need to do. I’ve often found, however, that a writer may only have a vague idea of what they really desire to say.

Third, ask if it’s full of buzzwords and clichés. If so, how can you turn it into something original and thought provoking?

Going through this process can help weed out the unnecessary debris and leave the core blossom of the sentence standing in triumphant defiance. Your readers will thank you.


 

Prosper

prosper

Project quote

“The foundation of a better community is to support each other economically.” (Contribulet fundraising app)

My thoughts

I feel that healthy communities accomplish this through prosperous businesses, local charities, and fundraisers (all without government intervention or subsidies). Voluntarily supporting your neighbors and people or businesses that you want to see prosper is the most successful method for creating a healthy, vibrant community. Fundraising and volunteer support through local means, or even through online networks brings people together for a mutual cause without coercive action of any kind.


Editing projects for week ending December 31, 2017
Academic Research Article, Fundraising app website
Client countries: China, US