Community

community

I’m rather a solitary, independent person, and not often lonely. My living situation puts me in close proximity with my son and his girlfriend by necessity. While I love being able to talk to him as much I do, I prefer my own space and am working to get back to that. Yet, I desire to belong to a community of people who have had similar experiences or who have the same problems to deal with.

Some of my favorite Youtubers include a lady who is a mom, blogger, and recovering addict who’s been clean for five years; a hilarious comedian with a stutter and a sweet dog; a fashionable and savvy blind girl; and several athletes who have worked really hard to get fit so they could compete in American Ninja Warrior competitions.

Years ago, I was in regular contact with a couple groups for ex-JWs, but I’ve moved beyond the need for that. I also led a crochet and knitting group for a couple years. I think some of them still meet up, but I don’t know where and I haven’t had much time for yarn work lately. I’m an editor and a writer and book lover so naturally, I’m in a couple writing groups on Facebook. While I was traveling with an ex-partner around the country, I felt some comradery with other trucker-wives. More recently, I’ve felt drawn to Christians who understand the Bible’s true message, and Jesus’s free gift of grace.

There are so many people I admire and others who just make me laugh. I can usually relate to some of their challenges or triumphs, but I don’t feel like I’m really a solid member of any particular group per se, or that anyone considers me one of their ‘people’. Why do I feel the desire to? That’s the hundred-bitcoin question.

I think I would like to identify and connect with a circle of friends occasionally, then retreat to solitude. Maybe a travel group, or community of small business owners.

Do any of you feel the same way? Why do you think people develop this need to belong?

I think some of the motivations are fairly clear: friendship, validation of certain ideas or beliefs, exchange of experiences and ideas.

Other less obvious motivations may include: boredom, loneliness, a need for direction, acceptance, reputation or status.

Comment below with your thoughts!

 

Imagine

fear

Project quote:

“Many of our fears exist only in our mind. We may instantly imagine bad things happening without any evidence.”  (Tom Henricksen, Relationship Management for Technical Professionals, 2018)

My thoughts:

Fear can be a protection. But it can also hold us back from many rewarding experiences in life. Courage is born from fear. Some of my proudest moments, some of my most rewarding moments were made possible because I fought against a specific fear and took a risk. One person might consider certain actions or words as reckless, while another might see it as an opportunity. When asked what my greatest fear was, I’ve never share this with anyone, maybe as a self-preservation mechanism. But I’ve learned the value of admitting my fears to myself. Only then can I challenge them.

Maybe instead of imagining the bad things that could happen, imagine the good that can happen. Even if the attempt fails fantastically—imagine the relief from knowing you finally tried. Imagine the boost of confidence you’ll feel, knowing you have the strength to challenge yourself, and your fears.


Editing projects for weeks ending June 3, 2018:
Reword privacy policy, Fitness website video transcript, Nonfiction book

Client countries:  UK, Israel, US


 

-ships

ships

Project quote:

“She thought she needed a relationship. What she actually needed was companionship — friendship not predicated on how she looks or on being pleasant or perfect.” (S. Chapman, Searching for Something More, 2018)

My thoughts:

Realizing this seems to be easy for certain women. But for the majority, I don’t think this is ever truly understood and accepted. Maybe I’m allowing my own experience to determine my judgement on that.

I’ve worked this out and know it to be true but applying this principle in my life is another story.

What is the difference between a relationship and companionship? Here’s my interpretation.

Relationship: A connection between two people. There are different kinds of relationships, of course. We have various kinds with the many people in our lives. The kind I’m talking about today is the romantic/intimate/physical kind. This kind of relationship may mean different things to different people, but most would agree that if the connection has graduated to the term “relationship”, as opposed to a fling, hookup, or flirtation, then there is some kind of commitment involved. But notice that these kinds of relationships often have different boundaries or expectations from one couple to the next. Personally, I picture romantic dates, making a home together and traveling together.

Companionship: Friendship. The state of being another person’s companion, or one that accompanies another. When I think of someone who is a companion, I picture someone who I am comfortable to be around. Someone who I could hang out with, be myself and do nothing. Or, hang out with and share deep, innermost thoughts. Or, someone to laugh and have fun with. I don’t picture a situation where I’m constantly worried about how I look or what I’m wearing. I picture acceptance and appreciation.

If a committed, intimate relationship can be combined with true companionship, then that to me defines the ultimate connection. 😊 

What do you think?


Editing projects for weeks ending April 29, 2018:
Nonfiction book, Business policies

Client countries:  US, UK


 

Deception

deception

Project quote:

“My husband has gone home to be another angel in the heavens…He now comes to me as a spirit guide and helps me with my spiritual work.” (M.W., A Wonderful Journey, 2018)

My thoughts:

I’ve struggled in the past with understanding people’s stories of angels, ghosts, and spirit guides. My opinion on this subject has gone through a few changes, so I just want you as the reader to be aware of this. If you’re skimming through the article, realize that some of the thoughts mentioned throughout are not my current opinions. It may not seem significant to each of you, but it’s important to me for readers to know that.

I’m not aware of how every religion and denomination views angels, death and spirits, and I have no desire to know what everyone thinks on the subject. It’s always interesting to learn new information and hear other people’s opinions, but I’m more invested in the truth of the matter. For a person who believes in God in some form, the most relevant question seems to be, what happens to people when they die? Specifically, those who aren’t being punished or going to hell or wherever you believe God sends someone who isn’t saved.

I was raised being taught that one of three things happen when humans die: They either stop existing completely, or sleep until they are brought back to life as humans on a cleansed earth or die and join a select few who will rule in heaven over humans on the cleansed earth. These three eventualities left no room for dead loved ones becoming angels that communicate with the living.

Fast forward to my late twenties, and I started thinking differently. I started doubting God even existed, yet still wondered about people’s accounts of ghosts or communication with angels. I was not ready to discount all of these persons’ experiences simply because I didn’t know how to explain them. I also felt that it was certainly possible that other beings, what most people would call aliens, could be the culprits. Every option was on the table because I clearly didn’t know either way and couldn’t possibly know everything there was to know.

Fast forward to my early forties, when I explored another view which I won’t go into because I never believed it at any point. I was simply testing a theory.

Fast forward to more recently. Now I definitely believe in God—Jesus. When it comes to angels, however, I believe that they are separate beings from humans, and humans never become angels. I believe people who are saved—”a great multitude”, not a small percentage of people—go to heaven and will be in the presence of angels and Jesus. I believe that there are only two sources for superhuman communication: God or Satan/fallen angels. When it comes to individuals having guardian angels, I’m not clear on that yet. I doubt it, but I haven’t done enough research to say. But I definitely believe that people who have died do NOT begin appearing to and communicating with humans on earth. So, for legitimate cases of communication from a ‘ghost’ or ‘spirit’ that claims (or is claimed by someone else such as a medium) to previously have been a human, the source seems clear to me: Satan or one of his fallen angels.

If angels—guardian or otherwise—currently choose to communicate with humans, then they wouldn’t pose as a dead loved one, because this would be lying. I don’t know whether they actually do communicate with humans or not (yet), so I’ll leave it at that.

I think it is easy for many good-hearted people to be fooled by personalities and celebrities who claim to hear messages from dead loved ones. Especially if they are given knowledge or messages they couldn’t possibly have learned on their own. Especially if the messages are positive and rewarding. I also think that for those who are open to non-traditional explanations for supernatural phenomena, it’s easy to make up an explanation or subscribe to various popular beliefs such as astrology, crystals, paganism, and new-age concepts of god. I’ve fallen in these traps myself at one time or another. While I appreciate the variety of people’s personalities and ideas and I enjoy talking with open-minded individuals, I am grateful to finally have gained clarity about our reality.

I’ll cite just a few verses of many from the KJV that relate to this discussion (angels). Please keep in mind that I’m stating what I believe based on the information I have up to this point. If I ever find evidence to contradict or clarify any of it, I’ll be sure to add to the article later. Of course, the best thing would be to do your own research and not rely on my opinion or the opinion of any other man or woman.

All verses are from the King James Bible; (NOT the New King James Version, which is a modern ‘translation’, therefore, not the actual purified words of God)
Genesis 2:1, Deuteronomy 18:9-12, Matthew 13:47-50, Matthew 18:5-11, Luke 6:18, Luke 24:39, 2 Corinthians 11:13,14, Revelation 7:9-14

A little background: I believe that the King James Version of the Bible is the only true English bible because it was/is never revised or rewritten, whereas all other versions change every year, for various reasons, either monetary or to fit with a church’s particular interpretation. This is a whole other conversation which could last for hours, but briefly I’ll mention that almost all modern bibles come from a couple English manuscripts which are considered older than the KJV manuscript. However, they were clearly inferior and full of errors and found in the Vatican’s storage room (as you would expect an inferior copy full of mistakes to be). In contrast, the KJV is a compilation of hundreds of copies that were compared and checked for accuracy and agreement and approved by a King. The ‘original’ Hebrew and Greek manuscripts don’t exist, obviously.**

If a person is to believe in God as all powerful and all knowing, then clearly it would stand to reason that this God would have the capability to preserve his exact words as he said he would. That is why I feel the KJV holds the actual words of God, because they haven’t changed since they were translated into English and published in 1611. The KJV has been corrected for printing errors and spelling standardization, but the text has not been changed. Anyone who believes that God would allow humans to change his words/doctrines constantly, as they do in the myriads of modern translations and versions, doesn’t believe in his power or infallibility, or in his actual words on the subject.

**I have likely explained this process somewhat incompletely or incorrectly, which I apologize for and I hope that anyone who is curious about it will look into it themselves, as it is a very intriguing and enlightening story.


Editing projects for weeks ending April 15, 2018:
Eulogy article, Academic research articles, Nonfiction inspirational book, College assignment proofreading

Client countries:  US, China, UK


 

Splendor

splendor

Project quote:

“The Gran Teatre del Liceu was a splendid structure displaying rich textures and brilliant colors designed to attract and compliment the crisp linens and shimmering satins worn by its audience … Gilded walls were covered by delicate ornate carvings that framed the horseshoe curve of the room with a striking, shimmering texture.”   (G.A. Dazio, The Ornaments of Love, 2nd ed., 2018)

My  thoughts:

My two favorite scenes in this book took place at the opera and a ball. I’m not a huge opera fan, per se, although I do love Andrea Bocelli; attending one of his concerts is on my bucket list. I am a great fan of classical music, choral singing and many genres of dance. Along with Bocelli or a symphony, I’d also love to attend a Diavolo dance production.

The scene at the opera conjures up images of attending a concert at a majestic theater, wearing exquisite attire and listening to heavenly classical music performed by a live orchestra, accompanied by an angelic choir.

The scene at the ball transports me to a fanciful ballroom, where I find myself gliding effortlessly around to a waltz, in the arms of a debonair, masterful dancer. The décor is fabulous and twinkly, and the ladies’ gowns are voluminous and dreamy. The musicians are flawless, and the sonatas and concertos surround us. Time is suspended, and cares float away.

In school, I sang in choir, and played the violin. I played the piano for years, from the time I was four years old. I’m not terribly talented when it comes to dance. I have great rhythm, but I’m not the quickest on my feet and learning steps is a slower process for me. Music generally persuades me to sway and move around to the beat and the mood and sing or hum along.

Composers are truly gifted. For all the poetry and song lyrics that I’ve written, I have yet to manage to compose a single melody. And not for lack of trying in my younger years! How is it that I can appreciate music, music theory, art, math, and literature, but I can’t piece together a few original notes? I suppose we all have our talents and I am grateful for my share. And grateful for everyone else’s!


Editing projects for weeks ending March 25, 2018:
Fiction book, Fitness website video transcript, Book reviews, ICO Whitepaper 

Client countries:  US, Israel, China, Canada 


 

 

Values

values

Project quote:

“When did you start smoking and how did you start? … Were your friends trying cigarettes? … Did you want to look glamourous or just older? Were you trying to lose weight?”  (P. Stanford, Quit Smoking in 72 Hours: Without Weight Gain or Withdrawal, 2018)

My thoughts:

The topic of smoking does not interest me in the slightest. I’ve never smoked. I’ve never been interested in trying it out. I don’t really care too much whether other people smoke as long as it doesn’t happen in a place I’m unable to leave when they light up, like a vehicle, or restroom, or restaurant…etc.  So why am I writing about it?

What does interest me is understanding what makes people do things that they know will likely harm them. I certainly can’t exclude myself from this group, either.

I feel it’s important to examine motivations and fears, to discover what drives us to do anything risky or physically damaging. If we can admit to ourselves what we really want, no matter how petty, or ridiculous or worthwhile, then it’s a step towards figuring out what our values are.

If our values become clear, then it’s easier to weigh our actions against these values. Look for alternatives.

I’m having a difficult time coming up with examples because I fear that readers will think I’m judging them or picking things that I disapprove of. Maybe you all could help a lady out? Drop a comment below and tell me about something you do or have done that could be considered risky or harmful and then tell me what made you do it. Not an excuse, or a long explanation. But your true motivation or fear that pushed you.

Ok, here’s my confession. Often, I edit all night, and neglect to get enough sleep because I love receiving praise for my work. Seriously, I live for it sometimes. Feeling appreciated motivates me to provide the best quality of work that I possibly can, sleep deprivation be damned. The problem with that should be obvious, as it disrupts my schedule, and can affect my health.

There are so many things that people can lie to themselves about. But why? Fear of change? Fear of responsibility? Fear of pain in one form or another? Fear of loss? The list is endless.

But what do you value MORE than avoiding whatever your personal fear is?
What do you really want?
Security? Admiration? Love? Relief? Truth? Control? Acceptance?

… for me to stop asking questions?


Editing projects for weeks ending March 11, 2018:
Book publishing website, Nonfiction book, Technology website, Academic research article, Nonfiction investment book, Fiction book
Client countries:  US, Lithuania, China, Thailand